Is this normal coworker behavior?

I’ve developed feelings for a coworker over the past few months and thought things were mutual, but now I'm unsure. We talk all day at work, text and message on Instagram after hours, and even on weekends. He bought me a wallet I’ve been eyeing to celebrate my promotion and brings me candy often. He walks me to my car, even though he parks far away, holds doors for me, and once opened the passenger door when we carpooled. Despite all this, he refers to me as his "favorite colleague" and sends coworker memes. I’m confused - does he see me as more than a coworker? I’m hesitant to ask directly since we work together.😅

a sales executive

On the one hand, his actions seem pretty thoughtful, and the fact that he’s going out of his way to do nice things for you, like getting you a gift and walking you to your car...suggests there might be something more. But then again, referring to you as his 'favorite colleague' and sending coworker memes might be his way of keeping things professional. I’d say take a step back and see how he behaves over time. If it’s really mutual, I think there’ll be more clear signs. Until then, maybe don’t overanalyze it too much.

a product manager

it’s tricky since workplace relationships can get complicated, but I’d say his actions show interest. The gift, the attention, the messages outside of work, that’s all a bit more than just friendly coworker behavior.

an analyst

It could be that he sees you as a close friend or someone he values at work, but not necessarily as someone he’s interested in dating. If you don’t want to ask directly, maybe take a step back and evaluate how he behaves around other coworkers. Does he do the same for everyone, or is it just you?

bugmaster

works at

BYJU'S

If you really want clarity, you might have to ask, but I understand why you’re hesitant. In the meantime, I’d say try not to let it consume your thoughts too much.

coderji

A Team Lead

His behavior definitely leans more towards flirtation than just friendship, but it’s hard to say if it's something more without seeing how he interacts with others. The fact that he’s doing these thoughtful things for you might indicate that he has feelings for you, but the fact that he keeps it professional with phrases like 'favorite colleague' could be him trying to manage boundaries at work. If you're still unsure, I’d say try to have an open conversation about it, but I get why that could feel uncomfortable. Just make sure you’re reading the situation in a way that doesn’t compromise your professional relationship.

dadiji

works at

Accenture

Ugh, I’ve been there. It sounds like he might like you but is too cautious to admit it, maybe because you work together. It’s frustrating when someone gives you all these signals but keeps things just ambiguous enough to not make things awkward. Honestly, I’d just take a step back and see if the dynamic changes.

insideoutt

1w (edited)

works at

IBM

The fact that he’s sending memes and calling you his 'favorite colleague' is probably his way of staying in the 'safe zone' while giving you some attention.

blessedleaf

works at

HCLTech

Maybe he doesn't want colleagues to know that he likes you. It could be the reason. If you like him, ask him when no one's around otherwise leave it and see where it goes.

mrnothing

1w (edited)

works at

Vashi Integrated Solutions Limited

See I also do all this for my female office colleague but not in love it's just for friendship . Same in your case maybe it's not love or maybe it's love only he knows it's better in this platform no one will suggest you the right thing that's my suggestions

glassdoored

works at

KFintech

Ummn.. Is he married or something?

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