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Day to Day Office
1w
an assistant manager

Have you ever "reverse quiet quit"?

The short version of my personal situation is that I've been quiet quitting at my job for a few years. I'm not sure how I've managed to get away with it for so long. Lately, the reality of how screwed I would be if I lost this job has started to set in. I've let skills slip away and failed to develop new ones. So, even though I wish I could leave, I know that I've severely hindered my ability to find something better, or even different, by allowing myself to waste away. I'm left with the concl. that I need to "reverse quiet quit" - that is, rededicate myself to this job so that I can build up a set of transferrable skills. The problem is that I'm utterly failing at finding the motivation to do this. I've dug myself into a deep hole, and the prospect of putting so much effort in at a job I don't like just to get back to where I was years ago is daunting. If you've ever found yourself in a similar position, I'd love to hear what you did about it. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
a team lead
1w
In the exact situation you describe here. I'll give you some more specific context. My job pays moderately well for my area. Right in the perfect spot between the low and medium end of middle class. Not great, not terrible. I have to work two jobs to keep up. Ultimately, I was hired in 2021, and by the beginning of 2023 I was fairly checked out. There simply wasn't enough to keep me motivated, and I've been doing above the bare minimum to keep things smooth. I get good reviews, and I get my little 3% every year, but there's no advancement and if I lost this job, I would be screwed too. So let me tell you this: If that's at all like what you're dealing with, find another role and start over somewhere else. Once you check out of a workplace, it's almost impossible to check back in. You've already decided you want to leave. If you were going to find that motivation, you'd have found it already. Skills you had got you in the door. Dedicate yourself to a new position somewhere else and you can actually build up some morale.
cleantonic
1w
works at
You’re too comfortable to risk change. There is nothing wrong with that, but quiet quitting isn’t that of you don’t actually move, that becoming disengaged, and that’s the sort of thing that makes you less productive and can lead to you getting fired. Ironically this then fulfils the intended goal, but you don’t have to take responsibility for the decision ( I got let go by company a and can’t find another job, as opposed to I quit company A but haven’t been able to find another job. Ultimately this is about you and your motivation. And that isn’t necessarily job related, what’s to say you won’t be feeling the same way in 18 Months about the new role. Better long term plan would be to look into why you are so disengaged with the current role, and look at some options for how you could improve this side of things, whether for this role or a future one this will help. You cannot sit there saying how screwed you’d be if you lost a job you’ve also said you don’t like and aren’t invested in. Either invest the time and effort where you are now, or actually quit which will force you to put the time and effort in to find and maintain a new job. At the moment this is still under your control, so make the decision sooner rather than later to make sure it doesn’t become someone else’s decision in the future. But work on finding your motivation in different ways, pick a thing you want to improve but haven’t been able to, could be something simple Like get out of bed when the alarm goes off every time, and just suffer the discomfort of doing that thing. Once you’ve done it for a while it becomes a habit, and work can be the same thing, there are aspects of my job I can’t stand, but I am used to doing them not because I want to but because they need doing, and so I do those things first each day to get them out of the way early so I can then hopefully enjoy things a bit more. Actually, as I write this I realise I’ve stopped doing this recently, and now my stress levels are way up and there are so many things that need doing I don’t want to do I am out of the habit of just getting them done. Your situation is salvageable, but you’ve got to find a way to motivate yourself, and maybe something outside of work first will be an easier starting point ?
timepasstiwari
1w
A Digital Markter
I was in a very similar situation with OP which ultimately led to me getting laid off a few months ago. Thankfully I have severance to hold me over but the motivation struggle is REAL for me. After working at my previous job for many years doing the same thing led me to get burnt out and now I want nothing to do with that industry again (Video editing, tv marketing). That part of figuring out my next chapter has been "easier" to decide on, even though it's my only skill set I have besides soft skills. re: finding a habit to build on - I started taking a language course that I've always wanted to do to make myself happy and enriched. It's also allows me revisit being in a school/learning setting, which helps towards feeling accomplished and challenged. I've been researching all kinds of fields that I think I could be interested in and get paid enough to pay my bills and have some kind of life. It's so hard though. Time is moving so fast and severance is going to run out. I also feel discouraged by the state of the job market and political climate. I have considered uprooting my life and moving abroad, possibly go to school and do remote freelance work . I just dont know how to organize myself to get out of this rut. I feel like I'm fighting with quicksand.
a content writer
1w
Might it be that the effort needed to do this might be what your role is lacking overall?
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